Biblical discussions of suffering are often removed from their biblical contexts and turned into abstract principles for all kinds of suffering. This usually has disastrous results as we try to interpret the causes of trouble that comes into our lives.
James Thompson sums up very well how the author of Hebrews directs his comments about suffering and the Lord’s “discipline”:
The description of suffering as discipline in 12:4-11 is not an attempt to explain why bad things happen to good people. Nor is it advice to those who are suffering in abusive relationships to endure passively. Taken out of context the message that suffering is educational could be destructive for those who are confronted each day with illness or abuse. Instead, the author speaks encouragement to a vulnerable community in a specific situation, offering hope that their suffering is not the end of the story. To follow Jesus in suffering is also to follow him into the presence of God. In using the wisdom tradition, the author is not making a categorical statement that all suffering results in education but encouraging the readers to see that God can work in their circumstances to train them to be faithful. His encouragement is a challenge, especially to Christians in affluent societies, to recognize that the Christian confession offers no guarantee of ease or comfort but rather an invitation to follow the suffering of Jesus, who “learned from what he suffered” (5:8). Although not all suffering is educational, this exhortation indicates that participation in the suffering of Jesus is a component of the path of discipleship (p. 256).