We often confuse or pervert Christian relational postures and character traits. There are probably lots of reasons for this.
Humility is one of those.
It is often badly understood as something like self-loathing. Self-loathing people downgrade themselves, their abilities and capacities. They sound self-deprecating.
It seems to me that this is how wounded pride talks. It’s self-love that’s been disappointed in some way.
A while back, just for fun, I would affirm insincere self-deprecating comments. For example, I would say to someone who had just played some music, “Hey, nice job on that.” If they responded with, “well, it wasn’t so good, I’m not that great at guitar,” I would reply, “I know, it wasn’t actually very good. I was just trying to be nice.”
There were no lasting injuries, thankfully, and it led to some laughs. It was an attempt to subvert our agreed-upon speech patterns that embody a perverted conception of humility.
It seems that humility is better described than defined. You know it when you see it and when you’ve been around someone who is humble.
Humility is something like honest self-assessment. There’s lots that can be said to describe it and elaborate on how it performs in various situations.
Anyone have a good definition or description?